Youth Violence: How to Prevent School Violence and Bullying

 

 

American schools are relatively safe, but any type of school violence or bullying and threatening behavior  is unacceptable. There are strategies to prevent school violence. Children, parents and teachers expect schools to be a safe environment for learning. Any acts of violence and bullying in school can negatively impact students, school, the learning process, and the community. Therefore, prevention of school violence and bullying must be a priority.

Children are likely to encounter news stories about shootings or other types of violence in schools. Such reports can make children view school and, indeed, the world as a threatening and frightening place. Consequently it’s natural for children to worry that they could become the victims of school violence. There are strategies for schools and parents to help children deal with such fears and to be proactive in protecting themselves.

Youth and School Violence

According to The Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC: Youth Violence: School Violence, 10/4/10), youth violence is a type of violent behavior starting at an early age and continuing into adulthood. Youth violence can include such behaviors as bullying, hitting, use of weapons or even rape.

School violence is a more specific type of youth violence. School violence involves the same types of harmful behaviors and victimization as youth violence, but it occurs in the school, a place that should be a safe haven for children.

School Violence Statistics

According to the an article on the IES National Center for Education Statistics website ( accessed 10/4/10), the Indicators of School Crime and Safety Report for 2009  shows that there were 43 violent deaths associated with elementary and secondary schools in the United States from July 1, 2007 to June 30, 2008.

During the 2007 and 2008 school year, 85% of American schools reported at least one or more incidents of violence had taken place in schools. These incidents total about two million crimes in schools. In 2007, 5% of students age 12–18 reported being fearful of attack, victimization or bodily harm at school. Only 3% reported being fearful of violence away from school.

Causes and Risks of School Violence

Decades ago no one could have imagined that violence in schools would have constituted such crimes as murder, rape, arson and other atrocious crimes. Poverty in the urban environment is one cause of violence in schools. The School Violence Resource Center suggests that urban environments present categories of risk factors, such as individual, family, community and school risk factors.

School risk factors are particularly alarming because of the negative impact violence has on students and their learning environment. School risk factors include early delinquent behavior, scholastic failure, lack of interest in education, and a potential for gang involvement. Though urban schools are generally viewed as having a higher risk for school violence, rural schools face risks of school violence as well.

Effects of School Violence

School violence and bullying or any kind of threatening behavior, have devastating, long-term psychological and physical effects on students, teachers and the learning environment. The threat of violence in the school setting has a negative impact on students’ ability to learn. Their inability to learn negatively impacts their future. As a consequence, adolescent violence, particularly in the school setting, is a serious health and safety issue.

How to Prevent School Violence and Bullying

Violence education needs to be addressed within the school system by teachers, school health officials and administration. The Violence Prevention Project of the Health Promotion Program for Urban Youth (accessed 10/4/10) is a good educational model for schools to follow. It involves educating students about the risks of violence and providing alternative conflict resolution strategies and a nonviolent classroom environment that emphasizes violence prevention behavior.

Teaching strategies include decision-making exercises on the consequences of violence and alternatives to fighting. Role-playing activities are used reinforcing nonviolent interactions. This violence prevention education program includes training programs for community agencies to help them identify and make referrals for high-risk individuals and to utilize conflict resolution strategies.

Parents must make their children feel safe by discussing with them what they, as parents, have done, and what the school is attempting to do to keep them safe. Parents can advocate for safer schools by securing reassurances from the schools that weapons are kept out of schools by doing random locker and bag checks, limiting school entrances and exits, and supervising entries and exits. Advocating for the installation of metal detectors is an option as well.

Parents, children and schools must not be silent about bullying either. Not addressing bullying only makes the situation worse. My book, The Bully and the Booger Baby: A Cautionary Tale, offers a relatable fiction story for children about bullying , as well as strategies and resources for children, parents and schools to deal with the ever-increasing bullying dilemma. My book website, Melissa Harker Ridenour Books, gives, not only additional information about the book, but useful resources for addressing the problem. It also gives information and resources related to my stranger safety book, What Would You Do? A Kid's Guide to Staying Safe in a World of Strangers.

Readers can purchase The Bully and the Booger Baby: A Cautionary Tale through Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

Readers can purchase What Would You Do? A Kid's Guide to Staying Safe in a World of Strangers through Amazon and Barnes and Noble, as well as through Follett, Baker & Taylor and Ingrams catalogues.

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Developing a Child’s Self-Confidence as a Shield from Being Bullied

 

     My book, The Bully and the Booger Baby: A Cautionary Tale, in addition to being a fictional story for children, also presents helpful information for children, as well as parents and schools to deal with bullying. One of the strategies presented in the non-fiction portion of the book is the importance of self-confidence and self-esteem to better ensure your child will be less likely to be targeted by a bully. I am offering to my blog readers an excerpt from the book that addresses that strategy. After the excerpt from The Bully and the Booger Baby: A Cautionary Tale, you will find some strategies for parents to use to help build better self-esteem and confidence in their children.

 

Excerpt from The Bully and the Booger Baby: A Cautionary Tale:

     Children who are confident and have better self-esteem are less apt to be targeted by bullies. Children, with their parents’ or teachers’ help, should try to maintain confidence and a more positive self-esteem. As former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” W.C. Fields’ words are even more relevant: “It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to.”

     Children can bolster self-confidence by pursuing enjoyable activities that they do well. They should explore new interests in order to increase their talents and skills. Children should try to make new friendships with other children who have similar interests. They should participate in extracurricular activities, social clubs, after-school programs, church youth groups, or sports teams. Bolstering confidence, interests, and friendships will make a child or teen less of an inviting target for a bully.

 

     To stave off a bully, a child should behave in a confident manner by standing straight, holding his head up high, and, by all means, making eye contact with the bully. He should remember to walk confidently too. A bully will be far less likely to single out a child as a target if he portrays self-confidence and positive self-esteem.
 

    A child or teen’s confidence should not be found in the form of any kind of weapon. A child absolutely should not carry a gun or other weapon because, doing so. will not make him any safer. Not only is it illegal for a child or teen to carry a handgun, but guns escalate conflicts and dramatically increase chances of being harmed.

How to Develop Self-Esteem or Confidence in Children:
 

     A Child’s self-esteem is his core beliefs about himself. A child’s self-esteem is reflected in his or her actions. A child’s self-confidence can vary from time to time, but a child’s pattern usually leans toward a healthy or unhealthy view of himself. With healthy self-esteem, a child is more likely to succeed in life. With self-confidence, a child is better equipped to make friends, and less likely to be picked on by others.
 

     Developing healthy self-esteem is a lifelong process, but the foundation of self-esteem is established in childhood. A sound foundation can better ensure a child can deal with difficult life issues as they are encountered, including being a potential target of bullying. Parents have the greatest influence on a child's belief about himself or herself. If you, as a parent, let your child know that he or she belongs, is doing well at things he or she tries, and is contributing can help him or her develop better self-confidence.
 

     Children sense that they belong by the way their parents talk to them and act toward them. As parents, you should show and tell your child that you love and care for him or her. Also, Children learn about how well they are doing by how their parents react to their behavior. Offer praise at least twice  as often (or more)  as you criticize.
 

     Teach your children cooperation skills and how to work with others. This can be done  by promoting cooperation within your family. To foster cooperation, give your child some age-appropriate household responsibilities.
 

     Promote, in your children a sense of  belonging, learning, and contributing. If a child feels as though he or she belongs, he or she is better prepared to participate in learning new things. Learning makes a child feel confident in making contributions; making contributions helps secure a feeling of belonging. Developing healthy self-esteem is a process that continues throughout life and helps a person act responsibly, cooperate well with others, and have the confidence to try new things. In addition, such self-confidence is one way of better ensuring your child will not be victimized by bullies.

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Welcome to my new The Bully and the Booger Baby Blog Buzz

Bullying is a silent pandemic threat. The statistics on bullying in our schools, communities, and on the Internet are alarming. About 47 teens are bullied every 5 minutes. Victims of bullying are up to 9 times more likely to consider suicide as a solution. About every 30 seconds a teen attempts suicide as a result of being bullied. Nearly one third of school shootings are related to bullying. More than 1 out of 3 students report that bullying happens in their schools. About 56 % of students have reported that they’ve experienced bullying via the Internet. Children with autism, aspergers, and other disabilities are 4 times more likely to be targets of bullying or abuse from other children.

Don’t let your child become a statistic of bullying. My new book, The Bully and the Booger Baby: A Cautionary Tale, offers help to children through a fiction story, as well as strategies and resources for children, parents and schools to help address the bullying dilemma.

The Bully and the Booger Baby: A Cautionary Tale is not only a fun and imaginative school story about a big bully, the kids he picks on, and a little boy robot who tries to lead the charge to stop the bullying problem in their school, but it is also an informational book. It includes two sections of researched and effective strategies and resources for children, parents, and teachers to help them better deal with today’s ever-increasing bullying problem.

Please read a few truncated versions of endorsements for the book:

“…This book provides practical and innovative strategies to ensure that our youth support each other in developing healthy and long-lasting relationships in and out of the classroom.”                  

            –Dr. Claudio V. Cerullo, Author and President/Founder of Teach Anti-Bullying, Inc.

“…Having been an Intenet Safety Advocate for over 8 years, I feel Melissa has covered the bullying epidemic extensively.

– Bill Latchford, Speaker/Internet Safety Advocate/Founder of Help Protect Our Children Internet safety website

“[This book]…empowers us to take action and help our children become successful, strong, and confident individuals. Everyone should have a Robby.”

 – Dr. Sue Cornbluth, National Expert in Trauma and Child Abuse/Regular contributor to Examiner.com and Parents Express Magazine

This book is available now in paperback on Amazon and will soon be on Amazon’s Kindle and on Barnes & Noble’s Nook.

Check back soon for updated posts about solving bullying problems. This blog also welcomes guest blog posts. If you have a bullying situation to share, please contact me about a guest post to my blog through mizzy300@comcast.net.